This week https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2023/03/07/truthful-tuesday-7th-march/ question is about ”spare the rod, spoil the child”.
Growing up, being hit never really did me any harm. Having said that there is a whole lot of difference between smacking and hitting. My dad never hit me, his hand was too hard. Mum would, but it wasn’t very often.
With my own children, yes I did spank them. However, after one occasion, where it was more my own anger involved, I stopped. There were other ways of getting my opinion across. One of them was to take away the wire from their X Box controller. It always did the trick. I made sure my children were in bed by nine, even when they were teenagers and at school. They were taught respect from an early age, especially with their elders.
My next door neighbours respected them back, and always spoke to them when they were younger. I remember doing the same. There was one neighbour, who owned a cat. She appreciated the company and I found someone to talk to.
My granddaughter has to go on the naughty step, not sure if it works, but she definitely doesn’t like going on there. She is only three, but learning please and thankyou, respect, can never be taught too young. There are too many teenagers these days, who don’t have that.
I don’t think we should be allowed to spank our children, as there are other ways to deal with them being naughty. My dad, for instance, only had to have a certain tone, and his disappointment was way worse than any one smacking me.
Good response Diana. My parents didn’t spank me, but my Mum bit me because I bit my sister. However, she bit me too hard, I bled and still have the tiny scar (on my backside). She was devastated, but it was the last time I bit anyone. Like you, I believe with hitting kids who misbehave where it hurts……… privileges, pocket money, outings, etc. They are more likely to take notice of things being withdrawn than a clip round the ear. Saying that though, even in my thirties my Dad said I wasn’t too old for one if he thought I deserved it. Thanks for commenting.
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